The safest way for a child to respond is when asked about the color difference in their family
The coolest thing that can happen to a couple is pregnancy. The moment when a man and a woman discover that they are becoming parents is priceless and it is pure joy, but so much thought is given to the future and the number of tasks to be accomplished along the way.
The Satterfields had been married for more than three years when they tried to have a baby, and after several failed attempts and repeated negative pregnancy tests, they started infertility treatments as the chances of getting pregnant naturally decreased. Nothing seemed to work and there was only one treatment left on the list, which Jessica said was a bit aggressive. But something happened before I started this medical procedure.
The Satterfield family attended an orphanage meeting at the church and changed their mind. God led them to this place for a reason and they knew what to do, even if they were a little scared, they went through the adoption process with the constant help of a local agency and the important day was soon to come. They finally met their adopted daughter, a sweet, sweet girl named Grace Sleah, in December 2013. The healthy 6lb 5oz Angel was in her right arms, overcome with joy and a strong sense of hope.
They were baptized again soon enough, and then they were called to tell them that Shelah was going to have a brother named Micah. The couple became happy and proud parents of three beautiful children. They obviously had some challenges along the way because as you can imagine a lot of people looked at them funny because of the color and it’s true they don’t look like other families. But the color doesn’t matter at all. Inside we are all the same. Jessica Satterfield shared her thoughts on the situation on her blog, saying:
“I am a white mother of three beautiful black children. And while we usually don’t realize it, others around us do. We go into stores or restaurants and people look at us or give us a double look. I choose to believe it because they like our family and are curious about our history.
It’s true that they don’t look like fathers and children, but does that really matter? It’s not that the color makes her less noticeable. And no matter what people think, they can do it as long as they want! They love each other and that’s the main thing.
Jessica relates how she looked in the mirror one night when she gently put the babies to bed and remembered that she wasn’t raising them on their stomachs. It is true that you do not care about these aspects when it comes to pure love. The Satterfields have moments when they forget they’re adopted. To them it’s just kids and that’s it. As they grew up, the kids started asking questions about the differences and the couple always gave details and made them understand the true values in life. They honor the diversity of their families.
The Satterfield’s made sure that their children understood and know how to respond in situations where they are asked about their family. Understanding how to talk well about what makes them unique and in such cases to answer with confidence.
An important moment occurred when one of the adopted kids was asked by another kid “Why is your mom white and you’re brown?”, the boy responded, “Families don’t have to match to be a family.”. Now that’s a confident and clear message he said, so simple and on point, proving that love doesn’t have a color. The parents were so proud of his statement.
Jessica has a beautiful way to describe it: “To the world, our family doesn’t look like we match. But we know, we match hearts.”
We are living difficult times, indeed, and its truly relieving to see that people better understand the real values in life and don’t tag people after their color, race, or sexual orientation. Please share this with your family and friends! The world needs to read such stories and deepen the understanding of what means to be a real human being.
